So yesterday I joined the ranks of the Fabulous 40's, women who look good and most likely feel good about themselves at least partially because they look good. It's not as complicated as it sounds. But to some, neither is a priority because of whatever big ticket items they're concentrating on at this time in their lives. As for me, I opt in to boosting my opinion of myself, and doing things I may not have had to do in the past (in my youth) like toning exercises or walking several times a week, or eating more sensibly. I look around at the women I know, and some of them appear to have it together--but I know that for some of them this is just a front. Some of the tells are heavily-packed makeup that I see them touching up several times a day, the ones who won't let others see them eat, the hairdo that's so hard, I wonder how they sleep on that stuff, and the clothes that appear to say sexy but in reality say "If you look at these parts of me, maybe you won't notice the parts I'm trying to hide." Those are usually the inner-person parts that are terrified someone won't approve or like them. A friend once told me that being fat was a defense mechanism for her to remain "invisible." She's attractive, sweet, and stylish, but she felt that because she's overweight, nobody would really give her a second look. I could go on, but there's so much being hidden and denied, it would take a whole seminar for me to break it down for you. My point is simply that I have been given a voice, a writing style, a face, and a body that just may get me noticed, and I have no problem using my tools and talents to bring attention to the issues we all face as women. Oh, trust that I have flaws both physical and non-physical (we ALL do), but I have learned that people listen to me, they want to hear from me, and I want to be heard, so I may as well speak to people I have much in common with--women. I also have the inside track on some men's issues with women too, because they keep talking to me. For some reason I can understand them--to a degree. I'm looking into translator opportunities too. Anyway, I've said it before, and I'll say it again: We need to get back to basic human "relations." I think that requires finding our own beauty, talent, and where we fit. Nothing feels better in my opinion than feeling good about me, knowing I'm sought-after, and knowing what I have to offer is valuable to someone. You see, spirituality is actually the beginning of self-awareness, which is why I know I was not put here to simply be. I am a woman, and "In a fear-inspiring way I am wonderfully made."--Ps. 139:14. I believe that for each and every one of us. From the mind of: Tonya D. Floyd Ask me how I found my beauty. www.Versatili-T.com www.ColorsofWomen.com Twitter: SignatureMoves
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beauty, health, motivation, psychology, relationships, womens issues
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