Women are always saying they don't need a man to validate them. Okay, I don't know what they mean by that exactly, and it's probably different for each woman, but let me play devil's advocate here briefly. Adam was on earth alone, the only one of his kind. He saw the animals paired up and eventually he got his own mate, designed just for him. They were to do some very important things with the land, and with themselves. Follow me now.
Woman was designed for man, to be a complement to man, and they were to fulfill each other's needs--the design was perfect, you know. When they sinned, God said to Eve, "your craving will be for your husband." I didn't make this up; Genesis 3:16, people. So while some of our more forward-thinking, ambitious predecessors sought to expand women's rights and changed the world, and though that's all good, know that we were made for men, and therefore feel it when they are absent from our lives. We feel it when they are present in our lives too, and don't we feel all the more powerful, sexy, desirable, and feminine when we have a man of our very own? Think about it.
I can't imagine what it's like to decide not to want any man, and go the other route; zero interest in finding out. But I do know I feel a whole lot sexier when I'm being sexed on a regular, I feel stronger when I'm taking care of mine, and I feel the most beautiful when my man looks at me in just that way to let me know he appreciates my assets. I can tell myself how beautiful I am, how desirable I am, and how much I'll be okay without a man in my life, but keeping it real, I'm not real interested in that either. I can survive, I will survive, with God in my life, but why should I have to? For me, that would be like settling since I was designed with more purpose than that.
I was designed for man, and I've been training all my life--on my own and through upbringing--to be a good woman, a strong woman, a beautiful woman, a lady. I aint do all that just to say "I don't need a man," and set out to prove I can be without one. Even the strongest of us sometimes say that and creep in the dark every now and again just for a taste of one, or more. Whatever. Girl, please; I love them. I was made for them. It's human nature, and God knows I can't turn back now. So I'll wait. But know that it's perfectly okay to feel what you feel, even if you don't tell the rest of us. It's by Divine design; you can't fight that.
From the mind of:
Tonya D. Floyd,
Tags:
motivation, reminders, women
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